Attempting to work from home while sharing the same space with my kiddo—who began Summer break.
Day one began with sadness that there was no school. What?! I have spent 75% of school mornings:
1. Convincing said kiddo about the value found at school when, "I don't want to go to school!!!" is uttered.
2. Nagging kiddo to get ready in a timely fashion.
3. Lecturing about the importance of being on-time.
4. Teaching about responsibility & the privilege of obtaining an education.
I'm guessing this may be familiar territory for other parents...And...I feel frustrated that this small human did a 180° turn on me today!
Sound familiar? Even if you don't have any children, perhaps you've experienced this behavioral switcheroo from what you’ve established as the norm between you and another human.
What I didn’t account for was the change itself. Consider organizations. Change projects come and go, with varying degrees of success. Search on-line and you’ll find a popular 70% failure rate of change projects in organizations. You’ll also find best strategies to make change successful. Good on paper. In action?
Let’s review my situation.
Did leadership communicate the vision? I told my kiddo what the expectations were for Summer. This is okay…but is it compelling?
Did leadership communicate the expectations and how the change would impact kid’s daily work? I stated there were continued school learning objectives, life goals, and exercise. I did not state how the daily impact would look.
Did leadership ask for buy-in and support? Uh-oh, this was a top-down initiative. I did not include kiddo in creation of the vision, nor did I ask for kiddo’s commitment.
These are only a few questions to ask of yourself when involved in change projects. To summarize, I created a vague vision with no structure or buy-in. What’s fascinating is I thought I was preparing kiddo for the change while giving the freedom to select when to do the daily expectations. It backfired. I took the kid from clearly structured time intervals to open-ended days without providing the skills needed or executive function to be successful.
Essentially, I went from a micro-managing leader who instructs at every turn to getting out of the vehicle entirely with little direction to continue.
Small wonder I’m seeing erratic behavior from change whiplash.